How to Stop Being a Christian After Abuse

Another perspective on a frequent deconstruction question

Note: this post has a flip side. You may be interested in reading How to Stay a Christian After Abuse but as the flip side of the issue, this post retains several similarities. My intention is to convey that you have a choice.

Last week I shared about the question I get the most as I educate on the abuses in Christian Fundamentalism, using my experiences in a high-control cult and marriage as the spine that informs the content I create.

“Are you still a Christian now?”

It’s a question married to labels and I explored the power of what we call our faith and why in that post.

But there’s one perspective I left out of that post so that I could devote more time to it more fully here: the person who’s asking because they’re hurting and terrified to let go of the system that hurt them.

They want to know how I can possibly stay affiliated with people who caused me so much harm. And it’s usually because they’re trying to stay despite the pain too. They want to know what a forerunner did, a fellow survivor a few steps ahead. Did I stay or did I go? And why won’t I answer this more clearly?

The title of the flip piece is click-bait. I wrote it that way because I know there are searchers. But, I can’t tell anyone how to stay a Christian after abuse.

And actually, I wouldn’t dare.

I’m a little more experienced with this side of the coin.