As a survivor, I just read the situation early. No amount of protesting will result in meaningful change. They will just double down until you lose too much. Every inch you give is not seen as a gesture of goodwill, but an opportunity to take even more ground. Power isn’t ever satisfied.
I hear you. Loud and clear. Sadly, I understand at gut level what you are saying because I too am a survivor of the patriarchy and an abusive religion, namely The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon Church). My exit was many decades ago, long before we had the internet, but somehow by listening to the radio, I heard a kernel of truth and realized the full truth of my plight and was able to get out. Mainly I learned then, and have learned over and over again, there is no negotiating with a bully. “…we have to do what we can to leave it.” And, “We need to render this man and him minions powerless.” May it be so!
Megyn Kelly is total trash. As an adult she complained about Roger Ailes’ advances yet if you’re “barely legal” for Jeffrey Shitstain what’s the big deal.
When the revelations came out about Graham Plantner, I kept saying it reminded me of when an abusive pastor is exposed. People on the left twisted themselves into pretzels to minimize & excuse the inexcusable. They seem unwilling to recognize the guy they like has disqualified himself from a position of great trust and needs to go live out his apology as an ordinary person.
I've watched MAGA Christians & formerly well paid lawyers like Megyn Kelly twist into pretzels to justify the epidemic of rape and trafficking of young girls and women that was fueled by Epstein and the men and women around him. Again, the same talking points I heard in the church.
We are the ones who protect each other. The powerful protect themselves and their friends.
I just bought your first book because I find your writing clarifies my understanding of what happened to me. Even though there was no physical abuse; even though my ex-husband was not particularly religious; the patriarchal structure he was raised to perpetuate created an abusive situation. Financial abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, psychological abuse. I remember all too well hovering on the cusp of the decision: do I leave and try to save myself and my kids, or do I stay and become complicit with him. I left. I lost one of my children, at least for now. But my sweet ADHD child is still with me, and is now old enough to see clearly and understand how to begin his own journey of recovery.
As a survivor, I just read the situation early. No amount of protesting will result in meaningful change. They will just double down until you lose too much. Every inch you give is not seen as a gesture of goodwill, but an opportunity to take even more ground. Power isn’t ever satisfied.
I hear you. Loud and clear. Sadly, I understand at gut level what you are saying because I too am a survivor of the patriarchy and an abusive religion, namely The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon Church). My exit was many decades ago, long before we had the internet, but somehow by listening to the radio, I heard a kernel of truth and realized the full truth of my plight and was able to get out. Mainly I learned then, and have learned over and over again, there is no negotiating with a bully. “…we have to do what we can to leave it.” And, “We need to render this man and him minions powerless.” May it be so!
Megyn Kelly is total trash. As an adult she complained about Roger Ailes’ advances yet if you’re “barely legal” for Jeffrey Shitstain what’s the big deal.
When the revelations came out about Graham Plantner, I kept saying it reminded me of when an abusive pastor is exposed. People on the left twisted themselves into pretzels to minimize & excuse the inexcusable. They seem unwilling to recognize the guy they like has disqualified himself from a position of great trust and needs to go live out his apology as an ordinary person.
I've watched MAGA Christians & formerly well paid lawyers like Megyn Kelly twist into pretzels to justify the epidemic of rape and trafficking of young girls and women that was fueled by Epstein and the men and women around him. Again, the same talking points I heard in the church.
We are the ones who protect each other. The powerful protect themselves and their friends.
On point as always, Tia!
@Tia Levings
@Jennifer Pinkston Armerding
The 12 Days
of Epstein
https://open.substack.com/pub/ojaiohana/p/video-the-12-days-of-epstein?r=5chxge&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true
@Tia Levings
@Jennifer Pinkston Armerding
Trump/Epstein Backstory: Essays & VIDEOS
https://open.substack.com/pub/ojaiohana/p/videos-friday-pre-game-files-release?r=5chxge&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true
Well written and insightful as always, Tia.
Powerful and so clear. Thank you Tia.
One comment I saw made me think this wasn’t such a bad idea. Trump may just have had no intention of ever reopening the government.
I just bought your first book because I find your writing clarifies my understanding of what happened to me. Even though there was no physical abuse; even though my ex-husband was not particularly religious; the patriarchal structure he was raised to perpetuate created an abusive situation. Financial abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, psychological abuse. I remember all too well hovering on the cusp of the decision: do I leave and try to save myself and my kids, or do I stay and become complicit with him. I left. I lost one of my children, at least for now. But my sweet ADHD child is still with me, and is now old enough to see clearly and understand how to begin his own journey of recovery.